These days, before we talk about misogyny, women are increasingly being asked to modify our language so we don’t hurt men’s feelings. Don’t say, “Men oppress women” – that’s sexism, as bad as any sexism women ever have to handle, possibly worse. Instead, say, “Some men oppress women.” Whatever you do, don’t generalise. That’s something men do. Not all men – just some men.
This type of semantic squabbling is a very effective way of getting women to shut up. After all, most of us grew up learning that being a good girl was all about putting other people’s feelings ahead of our own. We aren’t supposed to say what we think if there’s a chance it might upset somebody else or, worse, make them angry. So we stifle our speech with apologies, caveats and soothing sounds. We reassure our friends and loved ones that “you’re not one of those men who hate women”.
What we don’t say is: of course not all men hate women. But culture hates women, so men who grow up in a sexist culture have a tendency to do and say sexist things, often without meaning to. We aren’t judging you for who you are but that doesn’t mean we’re not asking you to change your behaviour. What you feel about women in your heart is of less immediate importance than how you treat them on a daily basis.
You can be the gentlest, sweetest man in the world yet still benefit from sexism. That’s how oppression works.
by Laurie Penny
Anonymous asked: What is your ethnicity? You're beautiful!
Ty! Portuguese, Venezuelan, Jamaican, Irish & French.
i don’t know how to explain what i’m feeling but …. it’s so good …….. so
waiting for my group to work on this group project in the library and i think i’m being stood up……… :-/
I’m in love for the first time and I don’t feel bad
Whirr Wants You To Fuck Off
Do you used to like Whirr before they started being too loud both onstage and online? They think you’re “pussies” if so. In a new interview with Noisey, the band gave their loud thoughts about their loud opinions. Check out a snippet below after the jump.
Whirr Says Pitchfork Is “Clueless About Anything They’re Talking About”
Anonymous asked: hi hi! do you know any good articles to read about PoC and feminism/how it's different from the movement for white women?? i'm only 16 and I would like to learn abt it but they don't really teach it in school and there's lots of opinions on it and my mind goes v fast when I think abt it all ty :))
!!!! this makes me so happy you’re so cute. hope this helps :*
Why I Won’t Call Myself a ‘Slut’ by Lutze B for Salon
"The bodies of black women are highly politicized and critiqued no matter who they belong to, from the first lady to “the help.” The physical movements and choices of black women are always viewed through a filter of suspicion. In order for me to claim my right to be a “slut,” I first must win the battle to be able to fully claim my humanity."
"White feminists who have large platforms and access to large platforms must make a real effort to include women of color and trans* women, and allow them to speak for themselves. As a black woman, I won’t be concerned with reclaiming my inner “slut” until white women show more interest in being in solidarity with me."
This Is What I Mean When I Say White Feminism by BattyMamzelle *this one is really good at laying down the foundation of the situation, lil venn diagram ‘n all.
"I’m talking about the feminism that disregards the fact that whiteness is a privilege that is not afforded to all women.
"I know that some of the feminists on this website have build their whole identity/self-worth/value around being The Biggest Victim, but get a fucking grip and recognize how good we have it in this world. Sometimes you are going to be slighted because you are a woman, but it will never be because you are a WHITE woman, and we just have to accept the fact that this is a slice of the Blame It On The Man Pie we do not get to take. UGH."
ALSO huff post had a really neat article on their blog- 5 Ways White Feminists Can Address Our Own Racism by Sarah Milstein
“if you’re constantly trying to assure yourself you’re not racist, you’re going to miss the ways you are.”
you can be my destiny/you can mean that much to me